Where do you go to, when you have nowhere to go?

We encounter many wise people during our lifetime.
However, recognizing them as such isn’t always apparent.
During the camouflaged blur of diesel and dust that was everyday military life, a mate asked me this question:
“Where do you go when you have nowhere to go?”
Yeah, we had philosophical discussions in the base.
Often we had more time to kill than we cared to admit.
On other days, we were so tired that we longed for the cadence of the boredom we dismissed without much thought.

I never answered the question.
Maybe I don’t remember answering.
But these things get relegated to the attic of “whatever” until they resurface in later years.

During a meeting, in pre-covid times, I noticed a colleague’s doodle.
She didn’t write down anything about the meeting.
But in the margin, she had created intricate imaginary worlds.
She noticed that I showed interest in her art.
She smiled, “It’s not like we really want to be here!”
At that moment, the discussions in a nondescript military base from so many years ago trickled back into my line of sight.

That’s what we do.
We’re often wishing and yearning to be somewhere else.
How often do you find solace and enjoyment within your current space and time?
When you can’t leave the meeting, is your mind somewhere else?
Mindfulness exercises teach us “not to make the moment perfect-” because that’s impossible.
Yes, it is impossible, despite what “they” say!

We can only live through moments and either choose to be aware of them or not.

Awareness can facilitate rewards.
I was aware of a colleague’s distraction that day. And it ignited a few thoughts about existence that I still find meaningful.
When we seek perfection within moments, we start forming the habit of going elsewhere.
That’s where the tragedy of the absent holidaymaker comes into play.
You’re on holiday but still can’t help but wonder who has liked your social media posts about your holiday.
I’m sure there’s a time and place for that, but you neglected to register the feeling of actual sand below your feet- Because you started making it a habit to go somewhere else by default.
Maybe this line is one of the saddest things anyone can utter:
“You’re supposed to be with me, but you’re thinking of someone else.”

Where are you today, and where do you want to be?
“Where do you go when you have nowhere to go?”
Is it possible to find something worthwhile within this current existence?
I hope it is.
The moments between monuments are where we live.
It would be tragic to look back and wonder where they went.

How do you anchor yourself in the moment?
Do you observe mindfulness practices?
And if you don’t. would you like to?
I would love to hear from you and how you remind yourself that there might not be “better” moments than these.


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